One thing I have been doing is self reflecting. I've always had a yes problem. I'm a people pleaser. This has been sometimes to my detriment. I'm not blaming anyone but myself. My cousin made a quiche for a family event once. I had been on atkins and lost about 20 pounds. She kept asking to please try her quiche. I told her I really couldn't because it had flour in it and I couldn't have flour. She said I made it for you though...I knew in your diet you had eggs and green chile and cheese and I know how much you like green chile. I felt guilty and I didn't want to hurt her feelings so I ate it. When you go off atkins it takes 3 days to get back in ketosis and you gain almost 10 pounds of water all at once.
At work I get on committees and say yes to way too many things...to the point where I'm overworked and it would impact my performance if I didn't take it home. I'm learning to say no. It's not easy. I feel like I let people down.
Hopefully I can work on that and my other problem of trying to fix what is not necessarily mine to fix...this includes trying to fix people!
I can say that I've found a new peace at work. Even thought there are two women (one formally what I would call a friend) now hate me...I'm oddly very okay with it all. I mean I wish they didn't HATE me...I'd prefer they just didn't like me much, but either way its an okay thing for me at this point.
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