I hear what you're saying. I didn't do this because of what people think.
I guess doing the homework and all that stuff again can't hurt...for you (and me) it will be deja vu.
So, there is a new thing running me. We are getting to that point where people notice the weight loss. I didn't want to tell anyone I was doing the optifast because...well you know. People are really starting to ask. It goes like this. "Wow! You look like you have lost a ton of weight! How much have you lost?" I answer "Around 40 pounds" Them "How did you do it...are you still losing?" I answer "Oh, I've been really watching what I don't eat." Them..."oh come on! Just changing what you eat?! No pills, no surgery!?" Me: "I take a vitamin everyday, but that's the only pill...no surgery"
Then the people at work: "You look like you have lost a lot of weight?! Are you doing that liquid diet again?!" Me: "I am." Them "you look fine are you still doing it? When do you stop?" Me: "When I'm done." Them: "Well be careful..blah blah blah..." So now I have a group of people who say right when they see me "Are you eating yet?!" or "When do you get to eat?"
I'm getting really sick of it. I couldn't seem to not hear it yesterday...it seemed like everyone. So today I put on baggy pants and a sweatshirt. hubby got mad. "You have worked so hard to get your body where you want it and you're going to hide it because you don't want to hear the comments?!" Yes! I'm tired of the questions and the comments! Did you go through that with the surgery? It's different I guess...no one accused you of being anorexic. I get told that all the time..I'm 175 freakin pounds! I'm FAR from anorexic!
Anyway, I have started to tell people that it bothers me when they ask me when do I get to eat. It's hard enough not eating but being reminded of the fact that there really is a very dim light at the end of my food tunnel right now isn't helping. I'm hoping they respect that. But what I really want to say is "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!" Why do they want to know? So when I start eating if I gain a pound they can say something?! When did talking about my body become acceptable?! I didn't come to them and say hey I'm on a diet! Watch me get skinny and feel free to comment whenever you feel like it about what you think of the whole thing!!! I invited 2 people...you and John and John is limited to only saying positive things! You of course have the purple pass.
I'm getting cranky about the whole thing if you couldn't tell. Maybe its my period...this week sucks...I'm still depangry and now I'm bitchy! On a positive note...I haven't got dizzy all day! I may be able to hold off on the 800 another week! Woo Hoo!
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I have no problem listening to any of this again if it gets you where you need to be.
I did get a lot of questions and comments after the surgery. I knew before I had the surgery that I would tell people I had the lap band surgery if they asked questions. I thought it would be easier. I mean, I was huge. Going from huge to big doesn't happen over night, and I'm still way too flabby for any explanation of exercise to be the reason for the weight loss. I've mostly found that explanation to be a conversation stopper. Like, ok, I can't really say anything about that. And if someone does, I just say I did it for health reasons. I had diabetes and hyper tension. Now I don't.
It is aggravating, though. People need to mind their own weight, not other's.
Good thing is, fall is coming. That means bigger clothes in general. Maybe the comments will slow down.
I have an update to this. I have come right out and told people that I felt it was rude to ask me when I was going to eat. Here is what I said:
"If the opposite where that I was gaining weight at and increased amount would you feel comfortable asking me when I was going to STOP eating? Why do you think it's any different to ask when I will start?! Either way we are talking about what I am doing with my body and I'd like to keep that personal" They don't seem offended and most have said...good point.
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