It's not really that bad, but I'm working very hard right now to avoid my death by a million paper cuts...I'm running out of band aids.
Hubby put a quote on his Facebook a few days ago ""With modern technology, texts and Facebook wall posts can serve as an attractive veneer making relationships seem more genuine than they really are. Conversely, social media can interfere with our most intimate real-life relationships. How many of your closest relationships would suffer if people had to invest more effort than sending a text to stay in touch? How much better could your relationship with your significant other be if you could give your partner your full attention whenever you're together? There's one way to find out, if you dare. "-The Amish experiment
So at first I thought nothing of it. He had mentioned he had read this article earlier in the week. I remember at the time thinking how ironic he got something out of this. Granted I'm on Facebook a lot he is on the computer A LOT! Many times we will have visitors and he will go off into the office to play his video games. The first time he did that I was mortified. Charlie was here from England. He of course said please go about your normal activities...I don't want to be a bother! Another time my mom was over. My mom actually said something to me the next day to the effect she felt like she interrupted something or perhaps bored him. We then started playing board games with her when she came over. That was my way of keeping Hubby out with the company instead of having a fight. After he posted the quote my friend commented something to the effect that I was neglecting my husband . It was then that I really started thinking about it in another light. Why did he put it on Facebook? The hypocrisy I thought; what's worse my family already feels I'm overly connected and my husband does nothing to stir their opinions differently. Often during a "discussion" I will reach for my phone to check facts...they make fun of me saying I must "consult the Oracle" Now on his page its being blasted that I, me of all people am now neglecting him by basically refusing to unplug! During this time of posting by numerous others, hubby again made no effort to say...hey wait my wife rarely goes on the computer at night...in fact it is me that has demanded my "time on the computer each night to decompress from my stressful job"
So the pity party is going like this: I'm exercising and working out a lot. I have 2 meetings a week (optifast and weight watchers) When I come home I am making meals, lunches, dinners preparing for the morning. I have a vegetable egg white omelet with oat bran and fruit everyday. I have to get up early to do it. I have to go to bed at a decent time in order to be able to get up. Every meal is fresh vegetables and fish or lean meat. I cook 2 dinners every night. When there is a little extra time I do laundry and clean up. If I have any other time I get on my bike. Now that Paul is awake I've been finding myself wanting to be at the hospital. Michael is failing english. This is not my fault, but Ben has sent me a text asking me 1. if I was aware he was failing and 2. what was I, me going to do about it? My husband is publicly insinuating he is being neglected and my sister has hinted that I may be a little crazy with the exercise. So here is what goes through my mind..."Dammit...for the first time I'm happy with my body and me in general and everything goes to shit. My relationships with my friend that almost died (I don't feel I'm there enough), with my husband, with my son, with my ex husband, with my sister (I miss my sister...I want to have our friendship back, but I know it means swallow my values and ignore what is important to me for the sake of sisterhood) Why can't I get this juggling act right?!"
So that's my party.
2 comments:
Well, I think technology has done wonders for our communication! At least I think it has...?
So, men. I like them in general, and you have definitely chosen a good one. But as a species, they are not really quick on their feet to do one thing their centuries older counterparts had down pat:
Man no longer comes to his lady's aid.
I obviously don't mean to save us from real dragons and danger. If it really came down to it, our men would push us out of the way if a bus was barreling down the street aimed for our asses. If we were at a convenience store, and it was in the process of being robbed, they would most likely stand in front of us.
But the real 21st century dangers - words and unflattering opinions - need to look more like dragons and robbers, because they don't see them when they attack.
It's not that John feels you're letting the relationship slip because of...all that stuff you already explained, he just doesn't see that saying, "Oh, no. Robin is totally not letting the relationship slip!" is a necessary, chivalric act.
Am I right?
Yes..you are right. I think putting the quote up though was asking for trouble. Shoulda woulda coulda. I just wish he woulda thought how this would effect me/us and what people would take from the quote.
Hindsight is 20/20
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