Wow! It's been a long time! Last I left off talking about counseling...and then no more. I fell off the planet basically.
Counseling went well. Basically Sherri told me I was doing things right. She told Hubby yes its hard to live with it, but it's what needs to happen. One thing she said that I really liked that summed up the whole thing. She said: You both are going along on your double seat bicycle (why the bike reference I don't know...) but we are going along and suddenly one of us throws a stick in the spoke. The bike stops abruptly throwing both of us. We both get back on but one of us is now riding with a bent spoke...(that would be me) I know its bent and I'm riding differently in order to compensate for tire. The ride is more difficult for John even though his tires are fine because he's having to pedal differently now that my tire has been compromised.
That's it. I'm not trying to ride my own bike...I'm not jumping off the bike and telling him how to ride the bike...I'm just trying to ride our bike the way that works for me without wrecking the entire biking experience! It may require some compromise from him. We only needed 2 sessions and then Hubby went to see her alone for his PTSD. He only went once and saw no need to go again.
Things are going well. I go up and down, but I always find myself back down. We just came home from Ireland. We walked so much in Ireland that Hubby lost weight. He was happy about that.
When we came home I began training for a 5k (running). Hubby has been very supportive with that regard...considering he was against me running at all.
Sister relationship is strained. She is not in a good place right now. She says she's heavier than she has ever been and Hubby thinks she may be depressed. What ever it is...she is very critical of me right now.
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It's easy and fun to walk when your in vacation. The exploring, looking, etc. I love it and walk more on vacation than any other time.
Glad counseling went well. The bike analogy is good.
John hasn't had counseling for PTSD yet? Or is it additional? He didn't need to go back because it didn't help or didn't need it?
Sorry about your sister. Your relationship has been strained for a while, hasn't it?
John had a little counseling when he first got home from Iraq but I think it was all about the divorce and the PTSD and I think the divorce diluted the PTSD talks.
Counselor said she saw the PTSD right there. John went and said it was excellent. He didn't go back because he didn't think he needed to...but I think he will go back for "tune ups" here and there.
My relationship with my sister is getting better. It's difficult we are both black and white thinkers. I'm learning to live in the grey and I've been taught through this program to compartmentalize toxic relationships so they don't seep into my stuff, but it's my sister. She can be extremely judgmental, she lacks tact, and seems to be missing a mouth regulator. I still love her like crazy, but I need to make the relationship smaller until she finds a healthier place.
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